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Teaching Resilience to Preschoolers

Preschoolers are becoming even more capable as their muscles develop more coordination, their language skills improve, and their ability to problem-solve increases. This is a delightful time for parents to ‘sit back’ and observe their children at play, remembering Maria Montessori’s philosophy that play is “the child’s work.”

Children actually learn how to help themselves by helping others. So, this is a great reason to help your child recognize others’ emotions or needs (empathy).  

  1. Point out when other children are demonstrating emotions. “See, the little girl is sad because no one is playing with her. Can you think of a way to make her feel better?”
  2. Look for opportunities for your preschooler to share and encourage it.
  3. Look for opportunities to volunteer together. “Let’s help clean up the paper cups after the party.”
  4. Acknowledge when you see your child problem-solving. “I noticed how you turned around to come down the stairs.”
  5. Allow your preschooler to make age-appropriate choices. “Which shirt would you like to wear today?”
  6. Remember to praise characteristics such as kindness, as well as the effort the child makes – not the end result.  “I saw you being kind today when you shared your book.”